While waiting for a queue in a movie house, I saw a kid asking her mom to be carried. The toddler was given an ipad to distract herself. Can you relate to this scenario?
The new threat to a toddler
Being a teacher, I have often had my share of experiences with technology . I’ve seen its perks as a tool for educating children.
Parents and even extended family members have also enjoyed its benefits. It has been most useful especially in making a child stop crying. Gone were the days when the parents would limit their kids to video games and watching TV for a long time because it’s unhealthy. A new threat has already come and that is- the use of ipads and tablets for soothing kids.
As my sisters and I we were chatting and enjoying Korean chicken, I mentioned this scenario to them .One of my sister’s jaw drop, another had a scornful look on her face. Both shook their head and agreed that it wasn’t a healthy thing to have especially with kids. They couldn’t explain why.They just agreed to the thought it was unhealthy. Suspicious that the shaking of head and the scornful look was just the effect of too much spicy chicken, I also opted to have a further read on it. As I read article upon article, I’ve come to gather these ideas.
1.The parent-baby bond
Self-soothe or self-settle is a development stage for a child to organically learn self-regulation of emotions with the help of parents. Say, you are kid who fell asleep from watching a cartoon with your favorite toy at hand.You suddenly wake up from sleeping. Your toy ipad is gone. It’s dark. No one around was there to comfort you. Such a scary thought isn’t it? Imagine another scenario. You wake up but realize that mommy or daddy is not around because you saw them leave the room just after you were kissed , said good night to and tightly tucked to bed. You then go back to sleep.Which scenario do you think showed a more bonded relationship between the parent and the child?
Displacing play over watching videos make someone sluggish and disoriented. Playing actually helps in a lot of aspects on a kid’s life. Psychologist Sue Palmer mentions creativity, adaptability, curiosity, problem-solving, self-confidence and resilience are only some examples of the benefits of playing real outdoor games with friends, family or classmate. Susan Greenfield, a neuro scientist, says that we can’t just leave the kids in front of the screens and expect them to develop a long attention span.
3. Focus is better than hocus pocus.
There have been studies linking deteriorated mental ability and health to excessive use of screentime. Kids under four years in UK participated in this study . It showed that too much virtual activity leads to less contact to reality. Also, it disorients one view of reality(this is the hocus pocus) . Think of a child’s brain like a blank sheet of paper.What the child experiences from the 5 senses are drawn on this paper. What happens if reality was not established at the initial stages of a child’s development?
4.Even Steve Jobs did not let his kids gadgets.
Need I say more?
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So, drop the gadget for your toddler. He or she should experience things first hand.Make your baby play and interact with other living beings. Bond. No screen time under three years of age.